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Below are the top six takeaways from my conversation with Anthony. 

1) Winning and Losing are Contagious

When you win, it becomes easier to win. When you lose, it becomes easier to lose. It’s called momentum, and it can shift for better or worst. 

When you win, it requires discipline to maintain focus and dedication to consistency, to keep doing the things that started your winning ways in the first place. 

When you’re losing it requires the discipline to have perspective on what the challenges are and what opportunities (and there’s always several) exists for you to climb your way out of the hole you find yourself in. 

What’s the common denominator? Discipline. What’s needed? Awareness of what’s going on and what’s possible moving forward. 

2) Doing More Than Others

Do you want what others don’t have? Are you seeking the ability to do what others can’t? Well, the math is simple: For you to be driven above others, you have to do more than they do every day. These are the words from Coach Abeid, Anthony’s father. 

On paper, this approach is black and white, but when it comes to putting it into practice, it’s much more of a problematic mind game. 

Normal feels good because it makes us feel secure. But what lays in the back of most of our minds? Success. Success in the sense of being able to obtain and achieve what others (average) people can’t. 

The only way to do this is to do more than our counterparts strategically. This is as simple as going to sleep earlier to wake up earlier. Getting into your body by running, lifting, and stretching every day. Taking time to be with yourself and to catch a grip on rampant thinking. Doing work that pushes you closer to your goals with focus and a commitment to quality. 

These are just a few examples of what most (ordinary) people are not doing. It comes down to doing better and being better day in and day out. And yes that includes the weekends too. 

3) Priorities

During Anthony's episode, he said: “If it’s not a priority than it falls to the wayside.” 

What I like about this statement is that it’s clear and straightforward. It’s not an “If… maybe” statement, it’s an “if… then” which means when the first thing happens, it’s inevitable that the other will follow. 

Priorities are dependent on actions because they either take place or cease to exist. 

Is it a priority to get stronger? It’s not if you’re not working out. Is it a priority to get smarter? It’s not if you’re allowing your mind atrophy in front of your smartphone screen. Is it a priority for you to treat others better? It’s not if you’re not the one taking responsibility in any and all relationships. 

Show me what you’re doing, and I’ll show you what your priorities are. Show me what you’re not doing, and I have no clue what your priorities could be. 

4) Physics & Time

“When you start with the correct mindset, I believe that you can achieve anything you want within the limits of matter.” - Anthony Abeid. 

Sam Harris once spoke on the topic of artificial intelligence by breaking down progress with two variables: physics and time. 

When we look at a challenge, we must understand if it’s physically possible. It’s it’s not, then it naturally cannot be achieved. However, if it is physically possible, then it’s only a matter of time before the knowledge is obtained to execute on the actions to overcome the challenge. 

Think about all the things you’ve assumed were not possible for yourself. Are they physically possible? If yes, then you’ve limited yourself with the mindset that you don’t have the time to achieve whatever you don’t think is obtainable. 

5) Ceilings

Why can’t you work on that side project? Why can’t you lose that weight or gain that muscle? Where do stress and pressure come from? It always comes from within, but we often blame the things outside ourselves for stopping us from going after what we want.  

Our challenges come from the self-limiting beliefs that we place on ourselves because the truth of the matter is nobody cares enough about you and your dreams to put enough effort behind stopping them from coming true. 

Why would anyone have the time for that? They’re too busy living their own lives while most of the things that cause us stress in our lives solely come from our mind. 

Who’s stopping you from taking the first step required to get towards where you want to go? Who’s telling you that you’re not good enough or that it isn’t possible? Who’s telling you these self-limiting beliefs and more importantly, who’s choosing to believe them? 

6) Trust as an Investment

I asked Anthony what has he invested in that has been the most impactful to him. His answer: Trust. 

We often don’t look at investments outside of time or money, and this answer made me view trust in a refreshed way. 

I believe trust to be the currency of relationships and that relationships are priceless. And if trust is the value exchange from person to person in relationships, then isn’t it essential to make sure we’re placing our trust in the right people, places, and things? 

The first investment of trust must be in ourselves because how can we ever honestly trust anything else if the source it’s coming from isn’t trustworthy to begin with? 

Secondly, we must be aware of the risk we’re taking with trust. Trust leaves us in a place of vulnerability, and that’s the point. That’s why trust is valuable because there’s a chance of it being violated, but we choose to proceed anyway. 

Take an audit of the trust in your life. Who/what do you trust and are you seeing a positive return on your investment? Once you find an answer, shift resources accordingly.